This upcoming weekend, I have the wonderful pleasure of being the Matron of Honor at a reception for a couple that has been a huge blessing and part of my family.
They were already married in Hawaii… I know, let the jealously kick in. But it was kind of a sudden event so only a handful of family and friends got to see it. They wanted to have a mini-ceremony/reception and invite everyone so that we could all celebrate such an amazing occasion together.
I have been extremely close with the bride ever since my husband and I moved to Arizona. She is married to my husband’s very best friend of many, many years. So of course when she asked me to be her right-hand lady, I was like “heck yes!”
Then it hit me… I can deal with all of the planning, the helping, the support and love. I enjoy all of that. But the speech, I do not enjoy that. It’s not that I don’t want to explain how much they both mean to my family and I, or how excited I am for them, but I DESPISE speaking in front of people. Obviously, that’s why I share my feelings and thoughts through writing instead.
Getting over the fact that standing up in front of people, even if I know all of them, makes me extremely nervous and gets my stomachs in knots, I knew that I needed to write a fantastic speech. Doing so would help make sure that everyone would just be so swept up in what I was saying that they didn’t notice I was standing up there shaking like a leaf, about to puke.
How to Write a Great Maid of Honor Speech
- Don’t fake it. If you aren’t funny, don’t try to write a speech full of corny jokes. If you aren’t really sentimental, don’t include a story that you think will make everyone tear up, when really they just think you pulled it out of a movie because it was so forced. If you want to pray for the couple, do it! Be yourself and let your own personality shine through. The couple you are writing it for will appreciate it so much more that way!
- Plan. Do NOT try to wing it. Some people, like my husband, can literally think of some hilarious and fantastic speech as they are being handed the microphone. But, for most of us, we need to have a written speech and know what we are going to say. That way, even if we trip up on our words, we will have something that can put us back on track before that silence after your mistake turns really awkward for everyone.
- Get personal. Include a favorite story or memory, but don’t make the entire thing a series of your inside jokes that only you and the bride and/or groom will understand. No one wants to sit and listen to an entire speech where they can’t relate to anything that is being said about the couple.
- Sensor it. Do NOT tell inappropriate jokes, stories, or anything along those lines. While this may be the personality of the couple as well as yourself, not everyone of the guests will want to hear about “that one time when you walked in on them…” Just, no. Not to mention, most weddings have young guests that do not need to be hearing that. Save it for a private card or another, more suitable, time for pulling those memories out of the closet.
- Be honest. Even if you aren’t huge on sharing your feelings, make sure to let the couple, especially the bride, know how you really feel about them and how important they are to you. You are obviously a huge part of their life or you wouldn’t have been granted the honor of being their MOH. So return the honor, loyalty and love back to them in your speech. Plus, people either want to cry or laugh at a speech. Honest feelings will usually always bring one of those:)
*Cheers to the beauty of weddings, friendship and love*