With Thanksgiving and Christmas just around the corner, it is the time of year where we hear a lot about gratitude and thankfulness. While I don’t think these are things that we should just hear about a few months out of the year, it is the perfect time to introduce or reiterate what it means to be grateful and teach them ways to show this even at a young age.

Toddlers and early childhood years are when many children realize that they get things pretty easily when it comes to their grandparents, or they receive gifts on special occasions for doing absolutely nothing. It seems like they quickly lose sight of the fact that they need to be appreciative and thankful of those special gifts or little acts of kindness that are shown to them.

It is our job as parents to show and teach them how to appropriately show appreciation and the importance of having a grateful heart and attitude.

ways to teach children about being thankful

I tried to come up with some ways that I could teach my toddlers to be appreciative of others and what they do for them besides the usual “thank-you”. It is important that children understand what it means to be thankful, not just have good manners. Who else are they going to learn it from if not from us?

Teaching Toddlers Gratitude

Because my girls are still so small, writing a thank-you letter was kind of out. Here are a couple of ways that children can show appreciation to others in ways that they will understand the reason behind what they are doing.

  • Have them make something for the person they are trying to show appreciation for

Things like baking a treat or coloring a picture are so much fun for kids, but they are also things that family members especially love to receive. My husbands parents moved to Arizona a few years ago, and they are extremely involved in our children’s lives. They are phenomenal grandparents and do tend to spoil our kids. What are grandparents for if not to spoil? That’s what I hear at least. πŸ˜‰

I am a big advocate for really being mindful of how much our children are spoiled, because I refuse to raise my children to feel entitled or like they should just be given everything and anything. Personal opinion, but I think this is the root of much larger issues.

We have noticed that our oldest was getting into the habit of just expecting things versus saying “thank you” and appreciating them on special occasions. Something that I had her do when she was younger was bake them a cake and decorate it after they got home from a trip. I explained to her that we were doing it because they do so much for us and we are so thankful for them. child making a cakeShe was obviously really loving the activity. Not to mention the fact that she got to eat the cake with them later. child making a cake

  • Show them how thankful you are as a parent when they do something for you

Giving them the appreciation that you are trying to instill in them is one of the greatest things we can do as parents. I don’t really like the saying, “Do as I say, and not as I do”, although it is necessary sometimes… But parents should do everything that they can to be role models for their children and we should want them to do as we do.

Showing them how thankful we are for the little things they do will hopefully help them show the same to others. I also try as often as I can to say “thank-you” to others around me that help me with something, so that my girls can see that everyone needs to be thankful, adults included.

  • Don’t let them get away with bad manners or rudeness

I do not tell anyone else how to parent. However, one of my biggest pet peeves is when parents allow their children to be blatantly rude and do nothing about it. I am not one to say anything, but I sure as heck think it.

My family was at the grocery store one day and I was waiting in the car with the kids while my husband ran inside. An SUV parked next to us and a family of three, with one child around 8 or 9 years old. The dad was waiting right next to the end of our SUV for him, and when his son opened the door he hit our car. The father had clearly seen me when he got out of the driver’s seat, and our car was obviously on. The son looked at me through the window, I looked in the side mirror to see if the father would come over… but then he just motioned for his son to come on.

No apology. No wave. Nothing.

I got out after and there was a ding where he had hit the car, but nothing that I would never be mad about. I was still waiting when they came back out of the grocery store and even had my window down as they both walked a foot away from me to get back into their car. Still, not a word.

Allowing them to be disrespectful and rude is the opposite of teaching them to show gratitude and recognize when they should be thankful. It is giving them the grounds to never be thankful and to think that they don’t need manners to get through life, which is one of the worst things that they could learn.Β  Bad manners are at the very top of my pet peeve list.

  • Find little things that they can be thankful about

Reminding them how wonderful it is that they have certain things orΒ  being thankful for family and friends will help to show them the true definition of what it means to be thankful. For our family, this involves making sure that we pray together as a family, often, especially before meal time and before bed. We thank God for our family, the food, and for giving us the day that we spent together.

Every day that we sit down to eat, my oldest never lets us get away with forgetting to pray and thank God for our food. A child praying is one of the most precious sights to see. It’s in those moments that I feel like my work as a parent is actually doing something, even in a small way.

child praying

What ways have you found to teach your children how to be thankful or to show appreciation?

*Cheers to raising our children to be thankful and grateful*

joanna at motherhood and merlot