I didn’t think that I would be writing about this topic, at least not for years to come. But, here we are… 29 years old and preparing for a hysterectomy. There are a lot of reasons why I have to get one, and I will explain those to you in case some of you are going through a similar situation.
Why Do I Need A Hysterectomy?
I shared because during my postpartum from our twins that they had found a fibroid present. Well, I have lived with that for almost four years now, and it has caused me nothing but pain, anemia, lack of fertility, and anxiety.
The fibroid that I have is too large to remove on its own. For reference, it is causing my uterus to measure the same as it did when I was 6 months pregnant. It is embedded in the lining of my uterus, from what they can see, and a myomectomy (removal of use the fibroid) is the case with smaller fibroids or those with different placement, mine is not a candidate for that.
The type of hysterectomy I am getting is different from what others can normally get, because of the size of the fibroid that I have. I have to get a vertical abdominal incision, from around my bellybutton to my pubic bone area.
It’s going to be a great upside-down “T” scar thanks to my c-section scar that’s already there.
The doctor will be removing all of my uterus, my cervix, and my tubes. We are hoping to be able to keep my ovaries… but they cannot see anything in the ultrasound because the fibroid covers everything, so it is one of those “wait and see” situations.
Preparing for a Hysterectomy
- Give yourself time to prepare. I you are an anxious person like I am, this is crucial. I am still spending nearly every day with this surgery in my mind. Thankfully, I also know it’s going to be planned and non-emergent (unlike my c-section which was the opposite, read their birth story here), and that allows me to really take the time to think about it and prepare myself mentally, as well as physically.
- Ask any and all of the questions. As someone who suffers from anxiety and extreme PTSD from my birth experience with our twins, I needed a doctor that would answer all of my questions and one that would take the time to understand my feelings. Y’all, I went to 8 doctors before I found this one. Thankfully, he put up with all of my questions, no matter how absurd they may have sounded to him.
- Get your body ready. I have been taking all of the steps to get myself as healthy as possible before going in for such a major surgery. There is a wonderful nutritionist I have been working with to get my eating goals on track, and you all know (if you follow me on IG) how much I love going to Crossfit RVA. I want my body to be in the best physical condition so that my surgery and recovery have the best chances possible.
- Make amends with the end of your baby making years. This is one of the hardest things for me. Thankfully, I have four beautiful kids that I am so thankful for. Saying “you will be my last baby” like I did in this letter, is now totally real and it is a hard pill to swallow at my age.
- Find a support team. This. Is. Crucial. If there is one thing that I can say, it is to have a group of people who know what you’re going to deal with before and after the surgery, and let them help you. I know that I have my sister here to help with my kids, my mom is coming to stay with me for a while after… don’t overwork yourself and allow the people who want to be there, to be there. This may not only be supporting you physical or with your needs, but also mentally. My amazing sister sent me this, and I LOVE IT in the times that I am anxious about this.
5 The LORD is my chosen portion and my cup; you hold my lot.6 The lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; indeed, I have a beautiful inheritance.7 I bless the LORD who gives me counsel; in the night also my heart instructs me.8 I have set the LORD always before me; because he is at my right hand, I shall not be shaken.9 Therefore my heart is glad, and my whole being rejoices; my flesh also dwells secure.10 For you will not abandon my soul to Sheol, or let your holy one see corruption.11 You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.
Have you gone through a hysterectomy? I would love to hear about your thoughts and experience.
*Here’s to saying goodbye to our uterus, when it isn’t doing us any good anymore*