To the mom who just had her 2nd baby (or 3rd, or more…),
I see you over there, tired as can be. You are now officially a mom of multiple children.
Let me start off by saying that you are lucky. Being a mom of one child is an amazing blessing. Being a mom of multiple children just increases that even more!
But, I will also tell you that I understand.
I understand that you’re tired and that you need a break. I understand that you lose your patience at times, which then leads to incredible mom guilt.
I’ve been there too.
I know that juggling more than one baby is a challenge, especially with another child that wants your attention. Again, I get that this can bring on feelings of guilt as you try to make sure that each of your children are getting the attention that you long to give them.
It’s a wonderful feeling to watch your children grow up together, play together, and know that you have been blessed with more than you could have ever imagined.
But… it’s not easy.
I know that some people with multiple children make it look easy. It seems like they can juggle everything, all with a smile on their face.
Smoke and mirrors. That’s all I’m going to say.
Life will never be the same from this moment on. From the moment that child came into the world that changed your sentence, “I have a child” to “I have children”, it is forever going to be a new phase of life.
After one baby, you may feel like you’ve lost yourself a little bit. It may seem as though you’re learning all of these new things that are just being thrown at you day after day, and really, that’s exactly what’s happening.
You may not feel beautiful all of the time, or ever. Just remember that you are. You are beautiful in the eyes of those children even if you don’t feel like it. Smile pretty lady:)
Now that you have more than just that one baby, every day will be a brand new learning adventure for you and those kids. Learning how to entertain the older one while you feed the baby, trying to figure out how to put them to bed at times when one won’t wake the other up, trying to figure out how to spread yourself as thin as possible so everyone gets everything that they need.
Grocery store trips will never be what they once were, as you try to put a car seat in the front, pack a kid or two in the cart, and still try to fit the groceries in.
You won’t get any judgment from me as I watch you try to balance those kids with grace and patience. The only thing you will see is a look of compassion and genuine for all that you do.
You are strong mama. It may not feel like it at times as you’re holding one screaming baby, listening to another throw a tantrum, or maybe even battling it out with a pre-teen. But you are. You are so strong.
I see you mama. If I could, I would give you a hug and tell you that, “I understand. I’m a mom too.”
*Cheers to you mama and all of your wonderful kiddos*