Raising Daughters to be Strong Women

If you know me at all, even if it’s only through this blog, then you know that one of the things I feel extremely passionate about is empowering and lifting up other women. Now, I am in the middle of raising daughters, three to be exact, and I can only think about how much I want them to feel strong and empowered as they get older.

Unfortunately, women have to fight and work for that strength and for their equal place in the world. No one would ever admit it, except Donald Trump, but there are still so many avenues where men are put above women.

I don’t agree with that.

I want my daughters to be raised to believe and to know that they are strong women. That they have their own power and their own self-worth, and that they can be whatever they desire to be.

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Raising Daughters to be the Women of the Future

As a mom of three girls, I have heard just about all there is to hear when it comes to how “girls should be raised.” Let me preface this by saying that there are a lot of things that I agree with when it comes to raising daughters. But, there are some things that I do NOT agree with, and these are things that some women might not see eye-to-eye with me on.

As a Christian and someone who has been raised in the church, I know the value and importance of a women and her relationship with her husband. I want my daughter’s to know that when they grow up, whatever man God puts in their life is someone to be trusted, respected, and cherished.

However, I will never teach my daughters that they are lesser than any man. I won’t ever raise them and tell them to believe that they have specific roles and men have specific roles. I think that this mindset is taking us backwards in the ways of society.

Now, I will be the first to admit that my husband and I have certain “roles” in our family. But, these roles are mine by choice. I wanted to stay home with my children until my degree is finished, which at that point I will be excited to work. I don’t mind cleaning and cooking because I am a clean freak and my husband isn’t big on cooking. My husband does not sit at the head of our table, or in any set spot really, because those extremely traditional ways are not what I want my girls to grow up seeing.

This has nothing to do with me not respecting my husband and what he does for our family, because I have the utmost respect for him. We are partners and equals. I am not under him in my “place” in our family.

Those aren’t roles that have been set in our household because of society. Those are what we have decided is best for our family, which is what I will raise my daughters to believe. They have a right to choose whatever style of life that they want. They are not constricted to specific “female roles in the household.”

There are a few characteristics of strong women, aside from the ability to choose their paths for themselves, which I work hard to teach my daughters as I am raising them. The right to stand up for themselves, the ability to be independent, but also the ability to be dependent and vulnerable when it comes to it.

Vulnerability and emotion are not weaknesses of women, as many men would think. They are what make us strong. They give us a backbone and they give us the ability to see and feel things that give us confidence and strength.

I know so many women who are forging a path for themselves. They are small business owners, they are big business owners, they make things, they are boss ladies, and they are amazing. It has been a pleasure and an honor to know so many of these women, to learn from them, and to show my daughters what strong women can become.

Raising our daughters to be strong women is something that we, as parents, have to work hard to do. We cannot let the, learn from others or learn from what they see on television or in society. It is our job to make sure that our girls know that they can do and be anything they want.

They can be super heros because all women are strong.

*Cheers to raising our daughters to be strong and beautiful women*

joanna at motherhood and merlot


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  1. I love this topic! Strong girls grow up to be strong women. God has a plan for each of us and each plan is personalized and different. We should teach our girls to grow close to God and the plan He has for us will become apparent. Women are divine and essential and should never be treated as anything less! We must help them to see and know that!

  2. This is so very accurate for our house, as well. I chose to leave the higher-earning job to stay home with my daughter, and at 4 she already knows that.

    My husband and I have our responsibilities to our marriage, our family, and our self-development, but I find that we cross traditional roles from time-to-time. And that’s a great lesson for our little girls (and guys) to learn.

    Your little girls are quite lucky to have a mom that wants to raise them to be respectful and powerful in their own right!

  3. AMEN! I love this post so much. I have a daughter myself and my husband and I are trying to raise her to be an independent and encourage her to be her own person. She loves cars, trains, princesses, and all things shiny, but will not hesitate to get messy out in the yard. My husband and I are splitting the chores in the house and act as equals all around. I hate all those “expectations” some people put in women or girls. I was raised to believe that I can be and do whatever I set my mind to and I want to teach my daughter the same values I got raised with. Your post is very inspiring. Great job!
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  4. I have two girls and my motto is that I fill their self esteem buckets so high that no one can make enough holes for them to feel it. We start and end each day with positive affirmations and we do things that make us feel good like volunteering and donating things. I’m raising future moms, ceo’s, teachers, surgeons or anything else they could dream up.

  5. Great message! It’s so important that our girls grow up knowing how to be strong as women. I agree wholeheartedly that being vulnerable and emotional takes strength, more than I care to admit. And it has taken me a long time to learn that.
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  6. Omg love this!!!! Being a mom to a little girl I can definitely say it’s tough to teach girls to be more than a pretty face. Swear it starts so young. Hopefully she learns that she can do whatever she wants and then take over the world with her knowledge & strength;-)

  7. All women are strong indeed! I want to raise my daughter to be confident, self-assured, and know she can do anything, like my son. They can both love whomever they choose and do whatever makes them happy. I am also in more of a traditional marriage, but that’s because I am home with the kids and my husband is at work all day, sometimes these roles just emerge and you have to tackle them with a smile but let kids know its not a gender decision but a family roll by choices.

    Have you linked up at #everythingkids yet this week? You should!


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