Dear Daughter and Your Future 16-Year-Old Self

A letter to my daughter(s) as they turn 16:

My sweet girls,

   You are only 3, 2, and just a baby as of right now, but one day you will be 16. It seems like that is so far away, but as I watch you grow up before my eyes I know that it will come faster then we think. As children, the world seems so carefree and easy. You are safe at home with you Dad and I, and you don’t have many tough decisions to make as of yet. Those decisions will come however. three daughters

Beautiful girls, as teenagers you will be faced with a lot of changes. There will be plenty of hormones that you have to fight with, decisions for your future in school to be made, cars that you will now be able to drive, and possibly jobs that you will be working at. All of these things are a part of growing up, so don’t let them overwhelm you. They can be wonderful, fun experiences so take them as they come. cmop 1High school will be a combination of emotions, trying to find yourself, and figuring out what real friends are. Trust me when I tell you, you will want to find those few good friends that will always be there for you. Don’t try so hard to fit in. Worry more about being your amazing selves and the people that you will want in your life, will come. Find things that you love and enjoy them! It’s okay to stay young and enjoy things that may not seem “cool” to others. It’s more cool to be different than it is to be the same as everyone else. letter to my daughter

Boys… now this is a touchy subject for your mama right now. It is hard for me to even stomach the idea of you dating. Eek! But, I know it will happen eventually. Wait until you are truly ready to enter that phase of life. When you are ready, which may be around 16 (although I am hoping for later), find someone that treats you with the utmost respect and puts nothing but a smile on your face.letter to daughter

Remember that your sisters can be your very best friends in the world. Cherish that, and rely on one another as you each go through you 16th years. My prayer for you as you each turn 16 is that you always remember the inner beauty that you have, as well as the outer beauty. I pray that you will always put your faith in God and trust in His Word to get you through hard times in your teenage years.

Your Dad and I will always be here for you, no matter what. So please don’t be afraid to come to us, even if you think we won’t be happy with the conversation. We will argue, we will disagree, but will also be there to help you up when you fall, and wipe your tears when you are sad.

We love you now and forever. 


joanna at motherhood and merlot

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  1. This is very sweet! My daughters are 15 & 18. Although I have sent them notes, and cards but nothing so focused. It’s not to late to start right?

  2. I think it is great that you did this while they are still little. I promise you won’t write it the same when they are actually getting close. (My oldest daughter turns 15 this month and just finished driver’s ed. over the weekend.) She has always been super confident. She thinks wearing make-up is ridiculous and dating is ridiculous and just wants to go play sports and be herself. Unfortunately, she injured her knee and had surgery so now all that stuff she has dismissed is creeping into her consciousness right now! I hope you don’t fear the major eye-roll and go ahead and have them read this when they get there.
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  3. I love this letter to your daughters. I have 3 boys and only 1 daughter, who just turned 20. I too have written a lot if letters.

    The last 20 years has been such a roller coaster ride. Lots of ups and down. Ive experienced pure joy and pride! Ive worried at times till I was sick. When her heart broke, mine broke. There is nothing worse then seeing your daughter with broken heart. Can’t put a bandaid on it and fix it for her.

    We’ve laughed and cried. Seen a lot of scary movies together. It’s tough at times to draw a line between friend and Mom but we had a good balance.

    I’ve loved being her Mom, her friend. We recently found out she will be having her first baby, due in August. I’m excited, nervous and a little scared for her but am looking forward to this new chapter in her, our life!

  4. This is so sweet, truly! I have two daughters – now 23 and 29! We made it through – yayyyy! 🙂 They have grown to be beautiful, smart and loving girls! And there is nothing like sisters! I have one older sister and we are best friends and I cherish our relationship! Thanks for sharing this heartfelt message and love your mother daughter pics!

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