Anti Valentines Day

I am going to let you in on a little secret… I despise Valentines Day. Me = Anti Valentines Day.

In all honesty, I think the holiday is a big, huge, money-seeking holiday for companies that are exploiting the love or feelings that people have for each other.

It’s not really a secret to anyone who knows me, because I’m pretty open about the fact that I dislike it. I know… there will be some people who in turn dislike me for saying that because they now think I am so unemotional, anti-love, wall of anger or something.

Not true!

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Anti Valentines Day Reality

I may dislike the holiday, but I absolutely love LOVE. Since we are all about finding the beauty and joy in everything around here, I will share with you the beauty I find in love, that I also think can be celebrated any day of the year.

Love is something that I treasure each and every day. I enjoy every second of loving my kids or showing my husband affection and appreciation. It is not something that I want to only celebrate one day a year with roses or chocolate or a gigantic “I LOVE YOU” teddy bear. Bleh. Those things do not scream “love” to me. They say, “Here, I spent some money on you because this is the day that everyone else does it.” The original meaning of this day, starting way back with St. Valentine, has been twisted into something that is so different and much too commercial.

Those of you that are fans of the holiday, don’t hate me yet! I am just being truthful about my feelings towards V-day.

This isn’t to say that everyone who buys their significant other something on this holiday is doing it because they have to, or because they are feeling guilty since it is the day of love. But, I think that this is the thought in the minds of a lot of people.

I personally would rather have my husband show his love for me in special ways randomly throughout the year, which he does might I add:) And each and every time, it’s special, I feel loved, and it means something because it came purely because he wanted to do it.

Love to me is something that can’t be bought or increased with a purchased gift. Now, I love a nice gift as much as the next girl so don’t get me wrong on that! But, there is something much more meaningful to me when those gifts come from the heart or on “just because” days rather than the holiday that is  literally geared towards getting people to try to buy another’s affection.

Connection and love is so much deeper then one day a year can show. The beauty of love is that it comes in all forms and levels. I think that an individual’s love for their significant other and/or their children and family, whoever is special to them, grows all the time! heart-574670_640

One of my favorite quotes on love comes right out of the Bible in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Not one place in that verse does it say “love is about how much you spend” or “love needs to be shown with gifts”. Some of the most amazing love stories I know are between two people who either loved each other when they had nothing, or lived their entire lives with nothing but each other and were so very happy! Those people surely don’t dwell on holidays like this one.

It’s beautiful that we live some place that we can celebrate love and affection freely, and we have the opportunities to do so by buying gifts or through sweet, romantic gestures. However, the amazing and immeasurable gift that is love only be really focused in on, one day a year? Not that love isn’t shown the other days, but does there have to be one day where love is measured by what one person gets the other?

Yes, I still make or buy a card or something for my husband and put together little gifts for my kids. I am not going to go set up a protest outside of the stores trying to persuade people not to spend money on these things.

So there it is… I love the holiday because I adore LOVE, but I hate it because it is overly commercialized and not focused enough on the true meaning behind it. Are my opinions on the day slightly cynical? Maybe… but I think that if people looked at the reality of the “holiday”, they would find a lot of what I said to be true.

I would love to know what your thoughts on the holiday are. Do you completely disagree with my feelings about it? No hard feelings either way:) I love to hear both sides of things!

I will say one thing though, Valentine’s Day does bring out some fantastic candy options! Although, I am on the fence as to whether or not Easter candy is better.

*Cheers to the beauty of love*

joanna at motherhood and merlot

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  1. Agreed that it’s a TOTAL money-grab holiday. With that being said, in my relationship, we definitely show eachother love all year long and also kinda/sorta celebrate Valentine’s Day. We basically just make it a designated date night where we hang out at home and watch movies and give all our attention to eachother. We’ve never done gifts or cards or anything like that.
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  2. I’m with you on this 100%, Joanna! I don’t think love should just be celebrated one day a year, and showering someone with love is more meaningful to me on an ordinary day than on a day designated for love.

  3. I’m not a big fan of Valentine’s Day either for some of the reasons you described. Even when I’m in a relationship, I don’t like the idea that THIS is the one day we’re supposed to buy roses, have an expensive dinner, yada yada. Suprrise expressions of love and unexpected thoughtful gifts are far more meaningful to me.
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  4. I totally agree. I do something small for the family because it isn’t THEIR fault the holiday has turned commercialized. We have heart shaped everything usually and everyone gets a small gift, but I prefer to celebrate our love for each other as a family randomly as well. It’s the cake for breakfast, or the Pizza and a movie nights that they will remember, not the over-stuffed bear saying “I Love You” Great post 🙂
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  5. We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. Although it’s another excuse to have a glass of wine and chocolates 😉 Valentine’s Day wasn’t always commercial and still isn’t in many cultures. It was started from a feast of Saint Valentinus. Who performed marriages to Christian soldiers under Roman rule who were forbidden to marry. It was said that he also shared /delivered their last love letters to their loves prior to battle….
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  6. First off, Valentines Day candy is TOTALLY better than Easter candy. That’s the REAL offensive comment in this post :). Second, I can totally see where you’re coming from and agree with you on Valentine’s Day. I do like the holiday, but I avoid the commercial, buying-things, ridiculousness of it. I like it as a reminder for my husband and I to set aside time and enjoy each other or have an experience together.
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